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The Memory Garden

We believe the loss of a child or infant is shared by the entire Jewish community. The Memory Garden is a welcoming space  for anyone grieving infertility, an abortion, a miscarriage, pregnancy loss, or the death of a baby or child.
Two visitors placing stones in the flowing water feature at The Memory Garden in Colma
Honoring Memory

What is The Memory Garden?

The Memory Garden is the first dedicated Jewish space in North America for those who are mourning infertility, an abortion, a miscarriage, pregnancy loss, or the death of a baby or child. Designed for families and chosen families across all streams of spiritual, religious, or ritual life, The Memory Garden is inclusive of interfaith families and anyone touched by this particularly tender form of loss.

Visiting Hours

Sunday – Friday

9 AM – 4 PM

No reservation is needed for individual or family visits

For Private Gatherings

The Memory Garden is available for private gatherings, educational and community events, family rituals, and ceremonies.

Words from Abby Porth

“Judaism gives us rituals for so many moments of loss, but pregnancy loss is often invisible. The Memory Garden creates a place where that grief can be seen and held.”

Aerial overview of the Memory Garden at Eternal Home Cemetery showing visitors walking the circular pathway surrounded by native landscaping
Echoing Tradition

What You’ll Find in The Memory Garden

Nestled within a quiet grove of redwoods at the south side of Sinai Memorial’s Eternal Home Cemetery in Colma, The Memory Garden offers a gentle and quiet place to mourn, reflect, and feel held by Jewish community, ritual, and tradition.

The Memory Garden offers:

  • A ring of redwood trees creating a natural sanctuary for meditation, prayer, or ceremony
  • A circular pool of water filled with stones for visitors to arrange — echoing the Jewish practice of placing a stone (Tz’ror) on a grave and reminding us of the outward rippling effect of death and loss
Two people sitting and talking on a stone bench surrounded by greenery at The Memory Garden in Colma
Supporting Healing

Why The Memory Garden Exists

The Memory Garden began in 2009 with the vision of two local Jewish parents, Debbie Findling and Abby Porth, each of whom experienced pregnancy and infant loss–a loss without an established Jewish mourning ritual or communal space for connection. In their grief, they imagined a visibly dedicated sacred space (Makom) for comfort, reflection, and healing grounded in Jewish values.

Opened in 2022, The Memory Garden represents decades of collaboration, fundraising, and care that we’re honored to share with the Jewish community.

Prenatal, Infant, and Child Loss Services

Sinai Memorial provides funeral and memorial services at no cost for families navigating prenatal, infant, and child loss. From planning and facilitating a service to coordinating all arrangements, we are here to support you with compassion, care, and patience.

Support The Memory Garden

The loss of a child or baby is a loss shared by the entire Jewish community. Your gift (Tzedakah) supports the ongoing care and maintenance of The Memory Garden for generations to come.

Words from Debbie Findling

“We wanted a place where parents could bring their grief out of isolation and into community.”

Educational Resources

Prenatal, Infant & Child Loss

Woman touching the flowing water feature at the Sinai Memorial Memory Garden
Mourning & Remembrance

History of The Memory Garden

The Memory Garden is a sacred, communal space for anyone grieving infertility, an abortion, a miscarriage, pregnancy loss, or the death of a baby or child–the first of its kind to exist in North America.
Grief and healing books on display at Sinai Memorial including Nihum Aveilim, Where Grief Resides, Dusk Night Dawn, and Healing After Loss
Mourning & Remembrance

Resources for Child Loss

Resources include crisis support, counseling, peer connection, Jewish spiritual care, and readings. You are encouraged to use these resources in whatever way feels valuable and manageable for yourself—there is no right order or timeline.